owyong puen
02/10/1991 chung cheng high school (main)
victoria junior college 1fg 2fg 06V11(:
08S41(:
wushu
soka gakkai international
singapore soka association future division
student division [ASD]
yeah!!! gt my slippers finally. brown n orange! damn nice. haha. its from surfers paradise(: but is a bit small cos dont hav the size i wan. but shld b ok la. haha. aint it gorgeous?
was reading the way of youth by ikeda sensei. read this part that was very meaningful.
staying true to yourself. somtimes when i am in a relationship, it's like i'm not myself. i try hard to be wat the other persons wants me to be. it is demeaning to constantly seek your parent's approval. in such relatinships real caring, depth or even love is missing. if you are nt being treated the way your heart says you should be, i hope u wil hav the courage and dignity to decide you are better off risking your partner's scorn than enduring unhappiness.
a shallow person wil hav only shallow relationships. real love is not one perosn clinging to another, it can only be fostered between two strong people secure in their individuality. rather than becoming so love-struck it seems only the two of you exist, it is much healthier to continue making efforts to improve and develop yourself while learning from those aspects of your partner that you respect and admire. Antonie de Saint-Exupery, author of The Little Prince, wrote in a work called Wind, Sand and Stars," love is not two people gazing at each other but two people looking ahead together in the same direction." relationships last longer when both partners share similar values and beliefs.
true love is not about doing whatever the other person wants or pretending you are something you are something you're not. someone who genuinely love you wil nt insist that you do anything against ur will or embroil you in some dangerous activity.
without respect, no relationship will last very long nor can two people bring out the best in each other. i personally hope men will b extremely caring and courteous toward women, respecting them and doin their utmost to support them. the reponsibility of men is to become strong enough, compassionate enough and adult enough to care about the lifelong happiness of their partners. for men who strive to cultivate this quality, it is also an expression of love.
also, it is important to think about when u hav children of your own - when they fall in love how would u like to see them treated? if u cant imagine that scenario, u r nt ready for love. i think it's important for everyone to hav at least one perosn with whom they can talk about anything - esp about love. i m in particular concerned about those who hav closed themselves off from their friends and family - its fine to keep some things to yourself, but sometimes secrets may hurt you. in matters concerning love, it is to your benefit to accept that you are nt necessarily the best judge of your situation and to ahv the wisdom to turn to others for their objective opinions and advice.
no matter how much you may appear to b enjoying yourself now or how serious u think u r about ur relationship, if u allow your love life to consume your time and energy at the expense of ur growth, then you're just playing a game. n if you're always playing games, your life would just be tat, a game...
